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The hidden half of domestic violence
Shattered Men was originally founded on Oct 31, 1999. We had 990 members and over 40,000 messages when it was hacked into and destroyed on April 1st 2007. We reformed that same day only hours after this was done. Much of the work done in Shattered Men is accomplished in this interactive group. If you have been or are being abused or if you care about those that need a group such as this. please join us by clicking below and then clicking "join now" in the top right corner.
Abused MEN! The other side of the abuse issue. There is evidence there are more
abused men then women now. All Even the church overlooks this problem. Come here
and let us explore this together from a Biblical point of view. Although the
focus here will be on men as men do not have places such as shelters to go to...
we recognize that all abuse is very wrong and while we are focusing on the men
we will not over look the hurting women who come here JESUS CARES AND WE DO TOO!
NOTE: Although we can understand there may be those who come here and are angry
with the other gender, Please remember not ALL of that gender is responsible for
the acts of some. NO gender bashing or derogatory remarks will be allowed toward
others be they members here or not. Please respond to others, as you would like
them to respond you
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I am a Registered Nurse with 30 years experience in mental health. I served three years in the United States Army as a medic and spent one of these years in South Korea. I accepted the Lord on Oct. 1, 1958 but as many who may read this, I had struggles throughout my life until I made Jesus my LORD in the fall of 1999. You can read about the events that lead to this in ken's story. As a result of these events, Shattered Men was started on Oct 31, 1999. I have attended Texas Bible College part time for several years and took Biblical Consoling courses while there. I also taught "The Basics of the Christian Faith" at TBC. The former president of Texas Bible College (Dr. Stan Ponz) has stated that Shattered Men is a much needed ministry and that it is paving new ground for the Lord. I am an ordained pastor although I am not a pastor of a local church. My ministry is the ministry of Shattered Men. I am thrilled to see the number of men and women who have been healed from the scars of abuse through this ministry.
E-Mail Ken |
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I'm a Nationally Registered
Emergency Medical Technician with 11 years experience (military experience
included). I served 8+ years in the United States Army on Active Duty as a
medic(91W20)
E-Mail Tim |
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I am 71 and I have been in SM 3 or 4 yrs, as a child and a catholic I was raped by my father every day from age 4 through I finished HS. I suffered a lot and my life as a young adult was so bad. Belonging here I see each day men and women who are hurt and in so much pain, they come here for help, for someone to talk to, love and compassion. I am so privileged to have been asked to be a moderator, so I can share my life. I don't like to think of it, but I see how my life has helped others. This group is my family and I love them all
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Disclaimer:
Shattered Men is a Peer Support Group
One of our
leadership asked their pastor about speaking on abuse in their church. The
pastor adamantly denied that any abuse was going on in this church. A few
weeks later, a man in this church approached this person and asked to speak to
them. He was in an abusive marriage for ten years. They spoke for
over four hours. When this man left, he had hope. He expressed a much
better outlook on things and he had planed on meeting again with several others
who are in abusive relationships so my question, is what happened in
between the time he left and the time he was suppose to have taken his own life?
It had
been going on for ten years so what happened that would have prompted this...or
was this "suicide" something else?
The pastor
demanded to know what right our SM member had to console this person. As a
result, our member called me and asked if they could have said something wrong
to this person which could have caused this.
My answer was that saying nothing would have been wrong. At least this person
knew that someone did believe him and that there were resources that he could go
to. (he had been given my phone number)
As to the authority to "counsel" this person, first let me make it
clear that as far as I know, NO ONE in
Shattered Men is a "certified" or "licensed" counselor,
We do have some ordained pastors who do pastoral
counseling but as to the "authority" it comes from ONE source:
2
Corinthians 1:
3 Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the
Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;
4 Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to
comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we
ourselves are comforted of God.
Each of us has
and will refer those who have very serious problems to professional counselors
but we have each been commanded to help others through similar things we have
been through as we can see from the scripture above. I also know we have seen
several saved from
suicide because they did find someone that would listen, someone that would
believe them. Often that person that is so close to taking their own life may
simply need to know that someone has noticed and someone cares about them. It
does not take a professional counselor to do this, in fact, often it will be
better coming from someone like me...and someone like YOU! Someone that does not
get "paid" to care!
If you do need a
professional counselor. please contact us and we will help you find one in your
area if possible.
SHATTERED MEN
P.O. BOX 166
MARION INDIANA 46952-0166
JUNE is Domestic Violence Against Men Awareness Month
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